You are not alone Old Dog. I hate large grips and wide levers too. I ride most of the time with my first two fingers curled around the top of the brake lever, so the juxtaposition of the grip in the web of my hand to the edge of the lever between the first joints in my fingers is very important. If it feels like I have to "stretch" my hand more than I am used to it would bug the crap out of me.
Getting the ergonomics of your bike adjusted just right can reduce over all fatigue while riding and does add to the overall comfort you feel.
It is always surprising to me how many folks add things to make their bike look cool without considering if they in fact make the bike "fit" them better.
Even just moving the handlebars back or forward an inch can make a significant difference.
Being a slave to fashion can have its downside.