A picture truly is worth a thousand words, my friend, but I'm just barely computer literate, so I'll try to explain the procedure instead.
There is one cut to be made from top to bottom (as you look at the grommet mounted on the bike). The cut is made parallel to, and not perpendicular to, the wires. Only cut one side of the grommet; you don't want two separate pieces. Cut down to the first (or outermost) wire, grasp it and pull it to the side (where you made the cut) and down peeling it out of the grommet like you would pull the peel from one side of a banana. This is obviously done after you have the grommet removed from its slot in the cover. Pull the remaining two wires, one at a time, in the same manner out through the slit.
Install the three wires from the new stator back into the grommet; just push the cut apart and insert the wires one at a time, and slide said grommet into its slot in the large stator cover. Don't scrimp with whatever sealant you choose to use; not only around the edges, but also where the three wires come through, as well, and also cover the slice that was made through the grommet. You may think that those wires are jammed together tightly enough not to leak without the sealant-------they are not.
Were we face-to-face, I could show you this procedure in about five seconds flat, but since we must rely on written words, I hope I've been able to express myself coherently and not leave you baffled by my poor communication skills.
'02 VN 750
stator replaced @ 50,570 miles
forks rebuilt @ 58,900 miles
currently on third battery & sixth set of tires