138 miles today the last 27 in a panic.





I hadn’t been able to get out on the bike since I got home from KY Lake, kids, work or one-thing-or-another. So I made up my mind, today is the day. Well originally I wanted to be out on the road by 10:00 or so. Well at 12:00 I am finally ready, now my daughter wants me to drop her off at a friends house. Ok…so I will do that…well at 1:00 she is finally ready to go.



We head out, about 17 miles later I drop her off at the friends house and take off toward the local swimming hole, about a half-ass J&T patrol. Well…some nice ladies there, but I am out to ride today, I head down a little two lane highway just letting the breeze ease my nerves…it is finally starting to work. I am feeling better…I am thinking this is why I bought the bike.



I know where a fuel stop is, but still have few more miles left on the tank, so I take a round about route to get there and it works out good. 101 on the trip odometer as I pull up to the pumps. I am the crossroads of nowhere, also known as Milledgeville (intersection of Hwy 69 & Hwy 22) I go in and get some Gatorade and candy bar and going to take a little rest.



As I am sitting their relaxing this blonde walks in…I start looking…that kinda looks like…it is…it’s my ex-wife! (A short note to get you up to speed: We divorced in March ’00. She left the state in January of ’03 and asked me to keep the kids, well I had actually already talked with a lawyer and was working on getting custody, (lots of bad things going on I will not get into on here) but the papers weren’t ready yet, I got temporary custody two weeks after she left. Didn’t get to court until August ‘03 because she has not contacted me or the kids to let us know where she was since April ‘03 except and attempt in June ’03 to take the kids while I was at work. Haven’t heard from her since) So after I figure out who it is…I say “Well” and she just says under her breath, “I ain’t got a f***ing thing to say to you.” And apparently doesn’t have anything to ask about the kids either. But she didn’t start anything…so I won’t either. Her boyfriend walks past me (may be husband now, I don’t know) and doesn’t say anything. She comes out of the bathroom and walks around me, they get something to eat and leave. I don’t really watch them other than to make sure they didn’t mess with my bike. Well something tells me to call home. I tell my mom about seeing her and I call the kids (I live next door to my mother so sometimes the kids stay at the house when I go out) and check on them…all is ok and I reminded them to lock the door and not to answer it. But I don’t think I see them head towards my house so I am “too” concerned.



I hit the road and I first I am upset…she has stirred up old feelings in me. I would like to let bygones be bygones but, she will hate me until the day she dies. So finally after about 10 miles I decide I am not going to let her ruin my day.



Well…then my phone rings, just so happens I am where I can stop and answer it. It is my mom, “You need to be on the way home if you’re not! They are beating on the door!” So know I am wound up. Luckily I had taken a more of loop route from the house than the long drive in one direction than I was going to, I am about 27 miles from the house. I head up Hwy 69, at about 65-80 mph norm max speed about 45mph. I get into this one right hand curve and there is dirt all in the road, I am not sure how loose it is so I don’t lean into the curve as hard as I should. I start drifting into the left lane and as I come out of the curve there is a car headed right at me. I lean as hard as I can to the right and get back over in time. I finally realize that I won’t do them any good if I am gone, so I slow down…”some”… as I come to one intersection where I am going to have to stop I see a message on my phone. So I stop to check it, it is my mother saying about the same as before, so I try to call he back…no answer now…so I head out like a-bat-out-of-hell again.



I finally get home…Irene and Robert (ex and bf) are gone, my mom is outside (why she didn’t answer the phone), my brother is over there and the cops have just left. So all is “ok” now. Other than I have to be worried again of her coming around after finally calming down some. Apparently they only looked in the windows, because my boys never knew they were there until all the excitement at the end.



So my cycle therapy was ruined…and know I will be afraid to go again except when the kids are at school (schools have copies of the custody papers) or they are else where. I want to say I have never talked about bad about the kids mother in front of them…or in general for that matter I…I state facts and let people form their own opinion, also I know I am only one side. I have never kept the kids from her…I just don’t want her to run off with them. On Mother’s day I had them not only get a card for my mother, but Irene’s mother and asked them if they wanted to get a card for their mother and give to their “MeMa” and let her give it to their mother and they all said NO…so I didn’t push it. My mother called Irene’s mother after this, found out they were there yesterday (about 20 miles away) and she tried to get Irene to call the kids, Irene says, “Maybe they will look me up one day.” So please don’t make me out to be the bad guy, like I am keeping them from her. She doesn’t pay any child support, but I would still let them see her even though she actually has no Parental rights until she does some things the court ordered (since she never came to court)



Anyway…guess that is enough about all of this…I hope I haven’t bored or upset anyone… I just needed to get this off my chest. As many of us have said it feels like family on here…so I figured I could tell y’all…thank you for listening…

Thanks for sharing. Bummer vibes. My suggestion, take a day off early this week and get a good ride in. Don't want the negative stuff to be a long rememberance of your last ride. I must say that I admire your relative calmness in the face of the complete rage she seems to be displaying.

I hope she doesn't bother you anymore. I think it's a good idea not to bad mouth her in front of the kids. It always is best to let them form their own ideas. You are doing a good job as far as I can tell.